I’m sad tonight.  Not sad like a few nights ago, not sobbing sad, just quietly, tiredly sad.  It’s starting to break all of us.  Tonight I watched a grown man crumble, literally, his legs give out beneath him, fall to the ground on his knees and sob those wrenching sobs that steal your breath and make you wheeze.  He is K’s partner.  They have two children.  They had talked about adopting a third.