Personal Journal

  • Imposter Bipolar Syndrome

    I had therapy today and I was talking about my last manic episode, and as I was telling about this, I felt like I had made it up.  As if, I know these symptoms and I had kind of LET myself have those symptoms, like I was exaggerating them to make myself more sick in the moment out of… attention seeking?  (I was alone, but… you know… for my own attention?)  I have this cognitive dissonance because, part of me has always felt like I’m not really THAT sick, I’m just exaggerating it.

  • Imaginary Friends

    I had a bad manic night.  Bad bad…  And both the guys were in bed, so I tried to deal with it myself.  I’m doing better right now, but my brain is very exhausted.  I can feel it… like… it’s hard to keep all the pieces of my thinking together. I’ll probably write about it another day, when I can hold my thinking better. But I have to shout out my bestie, S…  She wasn’t here.  She doesn’t even know about this, but I imagined that she was here, in the kitchen with me.  Sir was upstairs and sick, so I guess I didn’t want to imagine him for some…

  • Greetings from the Plague Ship

    So… yeah…  It’s been shit around here.  I got sick.  Then SB got sick, then Sir got sick, then I got REsick, then Sir got SUPER sick, now I’m finally starting to feel better, SB is surviving through drugs, and Sir missed three days of work and is on antibiotics. Sigh. I just ate a shit ton of carbohydrates… like… 100… so.. yeah… fuck you ketosis… fuck you body… pretty much shitting all over you tonight. Actually I feel kind of bad about it now.  And not because it’s against the rules, like… authentically I feel bad for hurting my body.  That’s some kind of progress isn’t it?  Sir just…

  • Practicing Compassion

    I’ve had a very rough few days, and Sir pointed out that while accountability to my writing is important, working on my self-compassion is also important and that we can work on a balance of the two.  This weekend it felt like hostility to force myself to post and I was struggling with a lot of condemnation of myself for not living up to my expectations, but it felt incredibly helpful to give myself the time, consciously (not because I just let it slide off the bottom of the list) to take care of myself and not post. I did do some writing, just nothing for public consumption, and that…

  • Fuck it

    I’m in one of those “I hate writing, I hate this blog, why did I ever decide to do this, how long do I have left until the end of a year” kind of moods.  I feel like… this is pointless, it’s stupid, it’s a waste of time, nobody cares, and I don’t know why I’m doing it. It’s been a rough week. And, of course…

  • Behind the Curtain

    Someone emailed me a question about whether, when I post a diary type entry and I’m in a certain mood or mindset, and then I post some intervening things that are of the non-diary variety, do I ever consider posting in my next diary about what happened between then and the previous entry – a sort of “When last we visited our heroine, she was clinging to the side of a cliff…” type of synopsis of the intervening time. This made me think about my manic episode a couple of nights ago. For those of you who saw that, I apologize. Sir went in the next morning and set those…

  • Q & A Punishment

    What emotions do you feel during a punishment? Wow, this is already hard, and it’s just the first question.  Emotions can be different in different situations and at different stages of the punishment, but almost always sadness, anxiety, sometimes fear or panic at a certain stage.  After being punished, a little while after I often feel peaceful, relaxed, relieved. Does punishment work? For what?  It kind of depends on the purpose one is assigning to a punishment.  For me, the purpose of punishment is to help me let go of my own rumination on mistakes I’ve made, and it helps me to feel confident in my place in my relationship,…

  • Impulse Control

    In this part of North America (USA and Canada) we have a holiday for labor.  Yeah… a day off… from labor… for Labor Day. Whatever.  I got chores done, lesson plans done, went to a barbecue, came home and have pork chili verde in the Instant Pot.  Yeah, baby!  We had a nice time with K and J.  It was stupid hot, but… you know… that’s how we roll here. The instant pot makes little noises and totally freaks me out because I’m always sure it’s going to explode.  And neither of the guys can hear the little sounds, so I’m running up and down the stairs to check on…

  • Empathy and Puritans

    We went away last night so I’m behind a post, but it was totally worth it!  Sir planned it without telling us, he just said on Saturday morning to pack a bag for overnight and we got in the car.  We stayed in a fancy hotel in the mountains, and we hot tubbed and we had an awesome night.  It was really nice.  And we came home today and got some chores done so all that I have to do tomorrow is some grocery shopping and… lesson plans, and we are going to K and J’s house for a barbecue tomorrow.  So… it’s been a good weekend. Sir and I…